Gender Expectations in Relationships

I believe that both this article and the comment have valid points. Both men and women often have expectations about proposal and marriage. I am a fan of the traditional way of taking your husband’s last name, a fantasy proposal with a ring, and a well-planned out wedding; however, I don’t believe that it should have to be this way. I believe that if a woman wants to propose, she should be allowed to without being judged for it. I believe that women should be allowed to keep their last names, especially if they value their last names highly. I believe that men should not feel as if they do not have any say in how the wedding should be planned or feel that they must provide the entire family income. In this modern world, I believe that it is good that some people are straying from traditional ways, even if I am a fan of tradition. My parents and I have discussed similar topics and I know that they are a fan of the traditional gender roles, such as the man proposing to the woman and the woman taking the husband’s last name, which is how my parents went about it. My parents did, however, speak about marriage before my father proposed. Although some people love surprises, I believe that a couple should definitely talk about marriage before sealing the deal. It is important that both partners feel comfortable with the idea of getting married and starting a life together. In general, while I favor traditional ways when it comes to gender roles, I believe that a person’s gender should not confine them to specific roles if they do not wish to fill out those roles.